5 Obligations of wives towards husbands in Islam, have you done them? Recognizing the wife's obligations to her husband in order to create a harmonious relationship
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Article written by Fia Afifah R Edited by Andra Nur Oktaviani Copied by Minayah What are the obligations of a wife towards her husband? following the review.
In navigating the domestic life, the husband is depicted as a figure of family leader and decision maker. the role of the wife is no less important, because it will be an advisor and a friend to exchange ideas that will influence the best decision for the continuity of a harmonious household.
regardless of the differences in how a wife spends her time with a career outside or taking care of the home and family, a wife will be the mother as well as the first school for her children.
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Therefore, Islam teaches husbands to as much as possible fulfill all the needs of their wives because their duties as the first school for their children are far from easy.
After getting the facilities provided by the husband, the wife is expected to maximize her role as a husband's companion and mentor for the children. In addition, building an Islamic household and ending up together in heaven are the main noble goals.
behind these roles and rights, there are wives' obligations towards their husbands that must be fulfilled. This is also regulated sufficiently by several sources of Islamic teachings, namely according to the Al-Qur'an, hadith, to the opinion of the scholars.
The wife is obliged to obey the husband's orders. however, not all orders must be obeyed, namely when the husband orders something that is forbidden by Allah and His Messenger.
Rasulullah SAW said: "There is no obedience in immoral matters. Obedience is only in matters of ma'ruf (goodness), "(Narrated by Bukhari and Muslim).
Obligations of wives towards husbands In addition to having rights that must be fulfilled by husbands, wives also have obligations towards husbands that cannot be ignored. Here are some of the obligations of a wife to her husband that must be done.
Also read: This is the law of a wife being angry with her husband according to Islam, you already know?
1.obey the husband
This is the wife's duty to her husband. Wives are obliged to always obey their husbands, except in matters that prohibit religious and / or moral rules. for example, a wife must be obedient when her husband orders her to pray at the beginning of time, performs worship and performs other obligations such as covering her genitals, and so on. Even so, there are actually things that can be discussed together. because, the wife must ask permission from the husband regarding whatever she will do. For example related to work, career, finance, family, education, and so on. This shows that the word obey in a husband and wife relationship is not instructional by placing such a position as a superior and a subordinate. But this is more of a teaching to involve the husband in making important decisions. Of course, in such a process, both husband and wife voice their opinions so that they can produce the best decisions and do not harm any party.
Allah says: "So the pious wives are those who obey Allah and take care of themselves when their husbands are not there. Therefore Allah has maintained (guarded) them, "(Surah An Nisa: 34)
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2. Having a sweet face and pleasing your husband
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The wife's obligation to her husband is to have a sweet face and please her husband. This command is
specifically related to the psychology of women who are sometimes unstable, both because of biological and non-biological factors. for that, the wife's obligation to other husbands is to be able to control and manage emotions as best as possible.
The meaning of having a sweet face and pleasing your husband can certainly be different based on habits and patterns in a household. for a wife, pleasing her husband can be done by cooking her favorite food. As for other wives, pleasing their husbands can mean taking their husbands on vacation, and so on. Regarding this, there is a hadith from Abu Hurairah RA, he said
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Rasulullah SAW once said: "The best woman is a woman who when you see her, you feel happy. If you command, he will obey you. And if you are not by his side, he will guard your property and himself ".
Also read: Secrets of a Harmonious Marriage in the Style of an LDR Couple
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3. Safeguarding the property, house, and honor of the husband
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The wife's obligation to her husband then is to protect the husband's property, house and honor. This is also a principle that is flexible according to the pattern that runs in a household.
However, generally, the wife is assigned the task of managing family finances. In response to this, Imam Al-Ghazali, a great Islamic scholar said, "Apart from money for the benefit of the family, the husband is also obliged to give money to his wife as 'salary' for keeping the house and raising children, in the case of the wife who does not work and chooses to stay at home ”.for Al-Ghazali, money for family needs with support for a personal wife must be differentiated. The important point is that the wife must actively participate in maintaining and managing the assets of a family.
thus, the division of labor is that if the husband seeks to obtain property, then the wife is in charge of caring for it and looking after it, even if it is possible to develop it
the order to guard the house as one of the obligations of the wife towards the husband applies to wives who work or who choose to spend time at home. This commandment is closely related to other ethical values taught in Islam one of them is that a wife is not allowed to leave the house without her husband's permission, let alone allowing other men to enter her house when the husband is not there.
Allah SWT said: "And you must stay in your house and do not be decorated and behave like the old ignorant people." (Surah Al-Ahzab: 33).
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Maintaining the honor of the husband is not exposing the husband's disgrace to others.
because this indirectly shows the weakness of the wife who cannot keep family secrets. In addition, Ibn Thaimiyah also said in his book:
"It is not lawful for a wife to leave the house unless with the permission of her husband.
if a wife leaves her husband's house without his permission, it means that she has committed nusyuz (disobedience), has committed immoral acts against Allah SWT and His Messenger, and deserves to be tortured ”.
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4. Seeking Willingness and Avoiding Husband's Anger
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The wife's obligation to her husband is to seek a willingness and avoid the husband's anger. The willingness of a husband is called a wife's ticket to gain the happiness of the hereafter and get to heaven. Therefore, a wife should do her best to get the husband's willingness. This is mainly related to matters outside the wife's obligation to her husband, such as;
Other actions that are pleasing to the husband and can make his heart happy, Helping the husband to complete work, Overcoming problems together, Skilled in managing the house, Sensitive to the needs of the husband, and so on. the important thing related to this point is, avoiding the anger of the husband. Because, if the husband is angry, then it will not only erase the effort to seek the husband's willingness, but will also threaten the integrity of the household. Also read: The Danger of Indulging in Household Problems to Anyone
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5.understand in bed affairs
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The wife's obligation to her husband then is to understand the affairs of the bed.
From Abu Hurairah, the Prophet SAW said:
"If a man invites his wife to bed, then the wife is reluctant to fulfill it, then an angel will curse her until Fajr time"
(Narrated by Bukhari and Muslim).
for that, the wife must be able to meet the needs of her husband in bed unless there is udzur such as illness, menstruation, childbirth, and others. So talk carefully with your husband regarding this matter .
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